How to navigate conflict in a Christlike way
Hi Friends!
We have been spending the last few months studying attributes as they pertain to becoming peacemakers, and today we want to dig a little deeper into a big one—R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
Respect is something we hear a lot about when we are young, but it’s importance only goes up as we grow up. Actually, that might be true for most things!
As we are working to follow Christ’s example more in our everyday lives, respect becomes paramount. He led with respect, He always treated others with respect, and He respected God’s laws. As we work to do the same, we can bring more peace into our own lives and into the world. Truly!
Consider these words from Dale G. Renlund:
“To be Christlike, a person loves mercy. People who love mercy are not judgmental; they manifest compassion for others, especially for those who are less fortunate; they are gracious, kind, and honorable. These individuals treat everyone with love and understanding, regardless of characteristics such as race, gender, religious affiliation, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, and tribal, clan, or national differences. These are superseded by Christlike love.”
When we are able to let Christ’s love supersede judgment, differences, and discomfort—things change! Navigating differences and conflict can be tricky, but when we prioritize following Christ’s example it simplifies things!
When we prioritize respect, we prioritize peace. When we prioritize peace, we prioritize Christ.
So let’s talk about a few ways to bring more RESPECT into our lives!
Feel Better in 5! How to navigate conflict in a Christlike way!
Choose calm.
President Nelson shared a promise he made to himself years ago that “he would never lose control of [his] emotions.” And vowed “…never to throw anything in anger—whether it be scalpels or words.” Working on emotional regulation allows us to remain calm and objective in emotionally heightened situations.
Open up.
Zooming out enough to see a wider perspective can help us understand others, even when we don’t agree with them. President Nelson warns against the danger of vilifying those we don’t agree with and encourages us to instead choose compassion.
Work to forgive.
“But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.” Matthew 5:39
This is not to say we stay in harmful and abusive situations. It’s to encourage us to allow ourselves and others to be human in making mistakes and also in the ability to change and improve
Make peace with being disliked or misunderstood.
“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” Matthew 5:44
Not everyone will like us, not everyone will agree with us—that’s ok! Focus on truly aligning with the doctrine of Christ and let go of the results.
Lead with love.
“By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” John 13:35
As our main goal and priority becomes getting to a place of love, conflict and hurt will soften. Respect transforms relationships, hearts, and lives! Let’s be more intentional in how we react and respond to each other!